Darnetta Green-Mason lost her son Erik to gun violence in 2007, a loss that affects her every day, and that has inspired her to help others in her community heal.
Darnetta is a leader in her community—a block captain, and the person others go to for advice. She works regularly with Mothers in Charge, an organization that supports individuals who have lost loved ones through advocacy, counseling, and community-building in Philly and beyond. Darnetta says shootings not only kill people, but tear apart families and divide community members. She hopes in the future that young men in her neighborhood feel like they matter enough to find a job, get an education, and feel accountable to their families and communities.
Bring a Gun
“The pressure that seems to be out there, the lifestyle, is that everything is settled in such a violent altercation. It’s no longer … if you get into an argument, you argue, you walk away … Or if it leads to physical confrontation, you walk away. It’s always one or the other that seems to come back and settle with a gun … [I can] make a phone call and say, ‘Bring a gun.’ And somebody would bring it … Why are people so ready to see you cause harm to someone else? Why is it that no one can say, ‘Wait a minute. Why can’t y’all talk about it?’, not, ‘Okay, here I come, where are you?’”
“One incident in particular really affected our community as a whole, when three merchants in a store were murdered … A husband, his sister, and his wife, [a] close Dominican family. [They were] close to the community, everybody was close to them … And it had people looking at each other because no one knew what had happened.
“‘Was that somebody from the community?’ and ‘Who would do this?’ Rumors had started spreading [though] we came to find out it was someone from outside the neighborhood … People are still affected to this day by the murder of those three people … It causes a lot of dissension in communities. Not just this family, and that family. Because communities are just what that word says—there’s a connection. Most families in most communities have spent generations within that same community.”
Making a Difference
“You can get folks to come out for a vigil, and no one will really have any input about anything … At the schools, to try to get someone to come out for a parents’ conference—very few. I don’t think that people believe that what they have to offer is considered, or that anybody really wants to know what they feel.
“Sometimes you feel defeated, but then again you feel that somewhere, there’s going to be a difference made. There’s going to be a difference made, there has to be. And not all of the young people that are in the community, even if they’re standing on a corner, they’re not out there to hurt anyone. It’s just that they have to realize that where they are and what they’re doing brings a greater chance of a problem, as opposed to if you were doing something constructive.”
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Interview by Dan Kurland and Tia Yang | Text by Trudel Pare | Photography by Tia Yang